I was looking at a picture from two years ago of my wife and I.
It brought me back to the time where we almost gave up completely.

There were things missing from our marriage that were obvious, we
would tell each other ‘I love you’ but I wasn’t sure if it actually
meant anything to her anymore or if it was just another word.

Things were definitely going downhill for us at that point and we
weren’t fully sure on how to fix it or if we even wanted to.

I was tired of her attitude and she was fed of with my ignorance. I
didn’t seem to listen very well, she would talk and my mind would start
to drift other places and by the time she finished her story, I had no
idea what was actually said, I just shook my head.

A part of it was the spite we had for each other, I really didn’t care what
she had to say, so I really didn’t pay much attention. I’m sure it was the
other way around as well for her.

We reached a point where we decided that we need to do something, we
tried marriage counseling, that did NOT go too well and actually made
things worse (more on that another time).

I decided to take matters into my own hands and do some research, even
though things were not very good between us, I knew I didn’t want to
give up everything we had accomplished together. Having a child in the
mix made it even more important to figure it out.

Side note: I found a lot of great information HERE

 

I read an article about asking them one simple question:
“What can I do to make your day better?”
… and I would follow-up on it. I would ask her the same question every
single day and no matter what she said I would do it. She started doing
the same exact thing for me and it made a world of difference.

Obviously there usually isn’t ‘one thing’ that will completely save a
marriage, but this was an amazing start for us. You learn and pick up little
things here and there, little tidbits of knowledge and you figure out how
you can put them all together to make them work for YOU.

I’ve learned so much along the way and I want to share my knowledge with
the world, if it save just 1 marriage, then it was all worth it. All the
reading, all the information I have gathered and everything I’ve been through
will all be worth it.

Using the “What can I do to make your day better?” started us on a path to
success. There were other things that greatly helped such as DR Amy Waterman Which you can see HERE.

Talk soon,
-Eric